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Whether you are just considering a sexual relationship, or have recently become sexually active, sex should be first and foremost, a fun and pleasurable experience. When you first take the plunge into your first sexual encounters, they should be about exploring your body and finding out what works best for you and your partner. There is no real right or wrong answers with sexual activities. It’s about finding out who you are, what you like or don’t like and how your body works together with another person… or yourself if you’re partying alone! Remember, sex is not only about the act, but also as much about the experience and how it makes you feel.
We say this lightly as everyone is different and wants to experience sex in their own way. Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you are guaranteed to have sex. While it may be something you will want to discuss with your partner prior, intimacy can be achieved without going for the home run. At the same time, don’t let the opinions of others be off putting. Sex is something that is unique to everyone and sometimes, other prefer to wait longer, which is totally acceptable, as is being adventurous and daring with sexual encounters. It’s you body so you need to do what’s right for you and work at your own pace and not be pushed into something that you are not comfortable with.
This is a big one. Sex must always be consensual, meaning both parties agree on the activities being undertaken. Take the time to talk to your partner/s (perhaps beforehand so that it doesn’t spoil the mood) about what you are comfortable with and take the time to listen to their wishes as well. Sexual intimacy can be overwhelming, especially as someone new to the experience so it’s important to consider how everyone is feeling and make sure all parties agree and consent before jumping in. If in doubt, its best to let your partner know so that they know your boundaries and limitations.
People hear the word foreplay and shake their head, but it’s not something that should be dismissed. Foreplay is your body’s way of preparing for sexual intercourse. Quite literally, it’s like a warmup session down there. Take the time to engage in fun and exciting foreplay for both you and your partner. Explore each other’s body and work on building an emotional connection to prepare your bodies for the goal. It’s important to remember, especially for women, foreplay, literally gets the juices flowing, so incorporating it into your sexual encounters makes for a much smoother and wetter experience.
There is lots of ways as a beginner to spice up foreplay so that it is exciting for both you and your partner. If you’re feeling adventurous and perhaps a little cheeky, feel free to prolong your play out over the course of a few hours. Leave enticing notes for your other half or better still, send a sexy text message to get their blood pumping. Maybe you want to dive headfirst in… then a lap dance or strip tease might do the trick to get things started. It’s your time and experience so engage with it in any way that makes you and your partner feel aroused. The key takeaway from foreplay is that no matter how you incorporate it, what you do or include, it should be fun, enjoyable, and pleasurable for all parties.
For beginners, we can’t stress enough the importance of making sure your body is ready for the experience. Whether this is with foreplay or using lubricant, it is essential that you prepare. Lubricants are a great option for beginners who want extra wetness when it comes to intercourse, whether it be with toys or your partner/s. There are two main types of lubricants – water-based and silicone-based. Both offer benefits depending on the type of activities being engaged in. Water based for example, are easy to use and clean up and are widely available. Silicone-based lubricants have a thicker consistency so are generally better for longer encounters or where consistency is required, for example water-based or anal sex. Lubricants come in a variety of flavours and sensations for your own individualised pleasure. Generally, lubricants are personal preference but should be a consideration for all beginners.
This is definitely a key factor to consider when engaging in sex for the first time (in fact any time you engage in sex). What protection are you going to use and what’s the best way to ensure safe sex for all the parties involved? The most popular method of protection, condoms, can be an effective way to protect against STDs and pregnancy, provided that they are used correctly. There are condoms available for both males and females so talk to your partner/s about options before engaging in sexual relations. Part of engaging in safe sex is also disclosing any previous STDs and talking openly about your sexual health. As a beginner to sex, this may not be as relevant, but you have to remember that while you’re new to sex, your partner may not be.
One of the most important things to remember is that all sexual relationships are about communication. Talking with your partner/s about what you like, what is pleasurable, what you want to try and what are your boundaries and vice versa with their ideas. We aren’t saying you need to hold a full conversation mid thrust, but gently slip in some words if you are enjoying something or want to switch things up. This is perfectly normal. Communicating with your partner allows you to explore your sexuality and theirs together as an experience.
At the end of the day, your introductions to sex and intimacy are about what is comfortable and pleasurable for you and your partner/s. Everyone is different and has a different idea about what sex means to them. Explore your feelings and express them in ways that makes you feel amazing and likewise, take the time to explore different ideas with your partner. Sex is designed to enhance your relationship and life in a fun and outgoing way. Always stay true to yourself and do what is right for you.
Whether you are just starting out or a sexpert, Minxxx Adult Boutique has all the essentials, accessories, and erotica to meet your wildest dreams. From lubricants, to vibrators, toys for him and for her and everything in between, you don’t need to look anywhere else. Talk to our experienced team of discreet advisors about how we can make your sexual experiences all about you and your partner/s!
